The Illusion of Love and the Reality That Follows

Relationships often begin with excitement, passion, and the thrill of something new. In those early days, everything feels perfect—both people are engaged, attentive, and eager to impress each other. But then, over time, that initial spark starts to fade. The enthusiasm dwindles, the sweet words become less frequent, and suddenly, it feels as if the energy in the relationship is slipping away. Why does this happen?

Perhaps it is because, after being alone for so long, people present themselves in the best possible light, trying to win over the other person. They give their all in the beginning, making sure to appear as the ideal partner. But the moment they feel secure or lose interest, that effort disappears, leaving behind their true, unfiltered self. This is when reality sets in, and you begin to see the person for who they really are. The illusion fades, and you realize that what once felt perfect may not be what you truly need.

So, how do you know if someone is the right one? A person who genuinely cares will not suddenly disappear or make endless excuses for their absence. Being busy or overwhelmed with work is never an excuse to neglect someone you love. Love doesn’t just live in words; it thrives in actions. Someone who is truly invested in you will make the time, no matter how demanding their life may be.

Falling in love is easy, but sustaining love requires true compatibility. Rushing into marriage or a lifelong commitment without deeply knowing someone is unwise. The foundation of a lasting relationship isn’t built on initial attraction alone but on shared values, mutual respect, and emotional alignment. It is crucial to take the time to understand a person’s character, how they respond to life’s challenges, and how they align with your needs and aspirations. A healthy relationship grows when both individuals take the time to develop themselves first before merging their lives with another.

At the end of the day, we are responsible for the choices we make in love. If we rush into something blindly, we must also accept the consequences—both the joy and the potential heartbreak. Love is not just about falling for words; it is about seeing beyond them and recognizing who truly stands by you when the excitement settles and reality begins.

The Author, Antica Zovko

Iluzija ljubavi i stvarnost koja slijedi

Veze često započinju uzbuđenjem, strašću i uzletom nečeg novog. U tim ranim danima sve se čini savršenim – obje osobe su angažirane, pažljive i željne impresionirati jedna drugu. No, s vremenom, taj početni žar počinje blijedjeti. Entuzijazam se smanjuje, slatke riječi postaju rjeđe, i odjednom se čini kao da energija u vezi polako nestaje. Zašto se to događa?

Možda zato što, nakon što su dugo bili sami, ljudi nastoje prikazati sebe u najboljem mogućem svjetlu kako bi osvojili drugu osobu. U početku daju sve od sebe kako bi izgledali kao idealan partner. No, onog trenutka kada se osjete sigurnima ili izgube interes, taj trud nestaje, ostavljajući iza sebe njihovo pravo, nefiltrirano ja. Tada stvarnost dolazi na vidjelo i počinješ vidjeti osobu onakvom kakva uistinu jest. Iluzija nestaje, i shvatiš da ono što je nekada izgledalo savršeno možda nije ono što ti zaista treba.

Kako onda prepoznati je li netko zaista onaj pravi? Osoba koja istinski mari neće odjednom nestati ili neprestano pronalaziti izgovore za svoju odsutnost. Biti zauzet ili preopterećen poslom nikada nije opravdanje za zanemarivanje nekoga koga voliš. Ljubav ne živi samo u riječima – ona se dokazuje djelima. Netko tko je zaista zainteresiran naći će vremena, bez obzira na to koliko mu život bio zahtjevan.

Zaljubiti se je lako, ali održati ljubav zahtijeva pravu kompatibilnost. Iskakati u brak ili doživotnu obvezu bez dubljeg upoznavanja osobe nije mudro. Temelj trajne veze ne gradi se samo na početnoj privlačnosti, već na zajedničkim vrijednostima, međusobnom poštovanju i emocionalnoj povezanosti. Ključno je odvojiti vrijeme za razumijevanje karaktera druge osobe, kako reagira na životne izazove i kako se usklađuje s tvojim potrebama i ciljevima. Zdrava veza raste kada obje osobe prvo razviju sebe, prije nego što potpuno spoje svoje živote.

Na kraju dana, odgovorni smo za izbore koje donosimo u ljubavi. Ako u nešto uletimo slijepo, moramo prihvatiti i posljedice – i radost i moguću bol. Ljubav nije samo padanje na lijepe riječi; ona je sposobnost da se vidi dalje od njih i prepozna tko je zaista uz tebe kada uzbuđenje nestane i stvarnost počne.

Autorica, Antica Zovko